27 December 2005

The past is where it should be.

I'm not the only one who has experienced an ex-flame haunting the present. It's always awkward, right? You'll feel a mixture of resentment and embarrassment in this occurence. Also, your head will then entertain a series of "what-if" scenarios and endless reel of playbacks about bad times in the relationship.

However, it goes the same with situations where you wanted "out" but are trapped in the other person's need for a so-called closure. I write this because I recently experienced this exact thing. I just let him think what he wants to think and let him say what he wanted to say, just to get it over with. And I thought it was only women who need closure. I guess I was wrong then. Hehe.

I'm not gonna bore you with all the details. I just found it funny because he sounded like the wounded party during the conversation when in reality he was the one who did the leaving and disappearing, I mean, he said he was still bitter about it and had the audacity to be angry even after being such a jerk and an asshole in ending things with me! Hahaha. He was the one who chose to end it, on my birthday, mind you! Anyway, I was hurt and angry for a while but I realized that I really didn't want to be with him, anyway. That's why I almost married someone else after that [which didn't work out either! Teeheehee.].

Anyhoo, my message to the guy: "get over yourself! I've moved on several times over, you should, too! I don't really care if you really did love me. It's irrelevant now."

Now, I've learned that once dropped, I'd rather not pick it up again no matter how much they claim that love can be sweeter the second time around. That cliche didn't turn out to be real for me. Yea, it's a been there, done that kind of thing. It's good to note, though, that I'm referring to the second try with my first love. Now that was a huge mistake! Hahaha. Oh, well. The past is where it should be, anyway.

To all the ex-flames, good riddance, I'd say.


  1. maldita: you don't know who he is! hehe. but I'm sure you know who the first love is! Teeheehee.

  2. u were pondering to take the walk down the isle ? interesting ;)

    i agree the past is located behind us so carry on forward :)

  3. "Now, I've learned that once dropped, I'd rather not pick it up again no matter how much they claim that love can be sweeter the second time around."

    You....are totally right. Don't be tempted, because the second bite of chocolate isn't as sweet as the first also. :)

  4. dj jerome: For a split second I did, almost picked out the engagement ring! Hahaha. Remember that you said that.. past IS past! Hehehe.

    alvin bhatara: good to know that i'm not alone on this one! =)