27 December 2005

The past is where it should be.

I'm not the only one who has experienced an ex-flame haunting the present. It's always awkward, right? You'll feel a mixture of resentment and embarrassment in this occurence. Also, your head will then entertain a series of "what-if" scenarios and endless reel of playbacks about bad times in the relationship.

However, it goes the same with situations where you wanted "out" but are trapped in the other person's need for a so-called closure. I write this because I recently experienced this exact thing. I just let him think what he wants to think and let him say what he wanted to say, just to get it over with. And I thought it was only women who need closure. I guess I was wrong then. Hehe.

I'm not gonna bore you with all the details. I just found it funny because he sounded like the wounded party during the conversation when in reality he was the one who did the leaving and disappearing, I mean, he said he was still bitter about it and had the audacity to be angry even after being such a jerk and an asshole in ending things with me! Hahaha. He was the one who chose to end it, on my birthday, mind you! Anyway, I was hurt and angry for a while but I realized that I really didn't want to be with him, anyway. That's why I almost married someone else after that [which didn't work out either! Teeheehee.].

Anyhoo, my message to the guy: "get over yourself! I've moved on several times over, you should, too! I don't really care if you really did love me. It's irrelevant now."

Now, I've learned that once dropped, I'd rather not pick it up again no matter how much they claim that love can be sweeter the second time around. That cliche didn't turn out to be real for me. Yea, it's a been there, done that kind of thing. It's good to note, though, that I'm referring to the second try with my first love. Now that was a huge mistake! Hahaha. Oh, well. The past is where it should be, anyway.

To all the ex-flames, good riddance, I'd say.

16 December 2005

Fact or Myth: Women are High Maintenance Creatures

It has been in my mind time and time again. Is it really true that men really believe that all females are high maintenance people, relationship-wise? Why do I keep hearing guys describe women this way claiming that this is one of the major reasons for not considering a relationship with them? I am baffled.

What I do know to be a fact is that women are known to be emotional creatures. They will forever search for that connection with men. Seeking the warmth and attention, a.k.a. Love, that a male partner can accordingly give based on the level of need. Yes, unfortunately, it can be subjective. Teehee.

I want to argue that not all women are materialistic or, to put it more crudely, gold-diggers. I believe most are just individuals who have simple needs and money, though hard to believe, is irrelevant. However, there are the ones who see money-clad men seemingly angelic and satisfyingly charming like all princes in faerie tales. Of course, all princes are undoubtedly rich, right? I reckon these women simply just dream to be princesses. Oh, if only faerie tales are true. Hehe.

However, if I try to look at it in a different angle, I can't help but ask, is it wrong to be practical? Should this want for money create a malicious reputation for the girl? And if you are living a comfortable life, or a luxurious one for that matter, will you choose to be with someone who will fail to provide such things over someone who won't? Love should be present within the relationship, I'm sure you'd tell me, but what if it is without question that you do love both equally and the decision is on your consideration of the financial capabilities of these men?

Dilemma. Dilemma.

Case in point, women in relationships don't really look at the money but on what the entire package is. Sure, a man with dough has an advantage but it will not seal the deal on the spot. The wisdom of it is money cannot give you the satisfation of waking up next to the man you want to look at lying next to you every morning for the rest of your life nor the man you want to embrace into your life, knowing he can support you intellectually, emotionally and spiritually. A real commitment is, after all, a union of kindred spirits, mutual friendship and trust, and over-all compatibility and it's not just about paper and plastic, conjugal property and social status. If it is the latter, which a woman will find more important then you can go ahead and classify her under the "High Maintenance Creatures" list and I pity the man who is blinded by her charm [and believe me, they will come wrapped in ribbons and frills] and who refuse to heed reason, thus, he ends up with her. Hahaha.

Ack. It's safe not to make generalisations and assumptions. Consider the subject dropped. Hehe.

11 December 2005

One-Track Mind

Is it really true that men have only one thing on their mind when it comes to women? It's horrible if it's true.

I already wrote something about this a while ago and it's found here. And I just read it again today when someone left a comment. It's funny how he claims that apparently guys suffer the same ordeal that girls do. Well, if we're talking about looking for a good or right partner, that is. I'm sure men aren't troubled with being targeted by women who are just after the physical pleasures of dating or are they?. Haha.

I'm not going to say that it's easier for men to date even if they hardly do get emotionally attached to the women they go out with. It's just that if I try to speak for all the women out there, though I might misrepresent a number of them, I reckon it's unfair and hurtful to be treated like an object and be subjected to ridicule when seduced. We are often labeled as stupid idiots for trusting a guy too much or too little. It's confusingly frustrating to play the game of cat and mouse, more commonly known as dating. Hehe.

It's heart-breaking, really. If you grew up thinking that men are like the princes in faerie tales and love stories have the "happily ever after" endings, then waking up to the realities of dating and relationships will really break your illusion of what love is. Or perhaps it's better that way, huh?

08 December 2005

Clingy Men

I don't know about other women but I'm not very keen on clingy men. I find them too, uh, sticky for lack of a better term. Teehee. They come across as being too soft to be a real man. I guess I prefer my man to be the "strong, bad boy type" which sometimes spells trouble most of the time. Sheesh.

Anyway, to further elaborate on the clingy-ness of a man, I'd define it as something -- er, someone who's too mushy. Man, shouldn't that be reserved for women? The female specie are the ones who are expected to be extra sweet and uh, let's say, gooey. Hahaha. Well, I've always thought so anyway.

I guess what I'm getting at is that I like my man to be less dependent on me for attention. Don't get me wrong, I like getting his attention, putting emphasis on 'getting', which signifies the action needed to acquire such. I see it as a challenge on my part and once I get what I want, I like the satisfying feeling of getting it. This also means that the guy will be willing to give it, too, of course.

It is hard to peg, the over-all personality of the guy I like, I mean. It boils down to his principles in life, I believe. I'm thinking that the more he has experienced life and explored the world, the more he has to offer me. And I reckon, the more the guy can surprise me, the more I'd find him attractive. Oh, well. Where is he? Hehe.

05 December 2005

Patience is not a virtue

... that I have. Hehe.

Well, at least, not yet. I believe it'll take a lifetime to learn it. You know why? I reckon when you're dead, that's the only time you can actually admit that you've reached the end. It's similar to what Plato said,
"Only the dead will see the end of the war." --- PLATO
I just came across it last night when I caught the movie, Black Hawk Down, on telly. Interesting thought, eh?

Yea, I know I'm being literal but what can I say? It is frustrating not to be a patient person. Especially if it feels like that you've been waiting for that certain something since God knows when and you've tried to sit tight and just let things happen.

Well, I am trying you know but it is difficult at times. Being patient, I mean. So, this is one of those days when I'm ranting about how time flies by too quickly for some things and too slow for others. All I can do is sigh in resignation. There's not much I can do after all.

02 December 2005

Sadness overtakes me sometimes...

Well, it is the truth.

I do wonder sometimes how I ended up still a single when my last relationship was a good 5 years ago. I know. It's been that long, huh? Uh, it's not like I haven't really entertained the idea of finding myself a guy, I have --- several times. It just doesn't seem to work out. Friends did say that I need not worry because I will meet him one day. Oh, yes. They speak of the Right Time [remember the usual reason, "it's just wrong timing when I met him/her" blah.] as if there is such a thing. How can you really know if it is the right time? You'd know, most people would say, like it really answers the question. Ugh. I give up.

I try to be optimistic about it and I do admit that it is fun being single, however, I do seek the constancy of having a partner whom you can rely on for your emotional [and yea, physical] needs. Oh, well... it's just one of those days that sadness of what I think I lack overtakes me. Join my pity party, why don't you? Haha.

What the bloody hell is wrong with me? Oh, just sod it.

Daily Toon

I just added Andertoons in my blog. I particularly find the Marriage Cartoons funny. I wonder why. Oh, no. Don't mistake it for my being a cynic about it, I'm not, really. Haha. I still believe that happiness can be found in marriage. Anyway, I hope you'd enjoy it as much as I do.