It's not a game

"Are you seeing anyone right now?" A friend asked me a few days ago.

Well, you already know the answer to that question. A big, flat "No". Heh.

He continued to tell me that he was going out here and there but no one serious. [Note: I used to go out with him a few months back.] I merely asked out of politeness, really. Hahaha. I wasn't really interested. Damn small talks. Bleh. Perhaps I should talk about the weather next time he chats me up. Hahaha.

Anyway, answering that question now doesn't bring any ill-feelings about the situation. I don't mind that I'm not actively dating. Why? I simply realised that I can't be bothered with dating anyone who doesn't excite or even interest me in any way.

Okay, for the sake of argument, I'll raise the point that some if not most 'daters' consider why they pursue and thrive in the scene -- Finding the perfect mate.

Sure, if you continue to date, you open yourself to all possibilities of finding him or her. It's like a process of elimination. It's like you're giving Fate a hand in bringing yourself to your perfect mate. But you see -- I agree with all that.

The thing is, I haven't turned my back from dating. I'm just not going out of my way to date, you know what I mean?

Someone told me yesterday that he's speculating that the reason why I don't have a man in my life is because I'm not coming off as accommodating, i.e. being too picky.

Whaa--?! Does he mean that anyone who applies some sort of standard in choosing the person he or she dates is too picky?

I sure hope not!

Hmmm.. I'm merely adapting the concept of letting guys know that if you're only asking me out to get into the game then I'll turn you down flat because I have no interest whatsoever in playing. Is that too much to ask from a guy? If it is then I'm not the right person for him.

I guess all I'm saying is, I will go out with a guy if he asks me nicely -- meaning he genuinely likes me and is considering a relationship if he finds that we have chemistry. He's also on the look out for the 'spark' and will let himself fall for me, granted that it'll get to that level.

It doesn't have to happen all at once, it doesn't even have to happen at all. I guess the difference lie in the intention, I reckon. Again I ask, that's not too much, right?